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When Reality Changed Overnight

I’m sharing this story in series of posts for mental health awareness and for caregivers who are walking a path they never expected. #2 The first hospitalization changed everything. Until that moment, I still believed quietly;that if we did the right things, if we adjusted enough variables, we could return to the life we knew. Hospitalization shattered that belief. It marked the point where mental illness could no longer be managed privately, spiritually, or quietly within the family. When She Stopped Speaking What followed was something I had no language for at the time. She stopped eating. She stopped speaking. She barely moved. For ten days, she existed in a state that was deeply unsettling to witness. I later learned the word for it: catatonia . At the time, it felt like watching my child retreat somewhere I could not reach. I bathed her. I sat beside her. I tried to talk to her, even when there was no response. I did paath quietly, sitting near her bed, holding onto faith...

Before We Had Words for It

I’m sharing this story in series of posts for mental health awareness and for caregivers who are walking a path they never expected. #1 Mental illness rarely announces itself loudly at the beginning. For us, it arrived quietly; disguised as anxiety, depression, fleeting psychosis that felt like a vivid nightmare, and heightened sensitivity. Like many families, we believed we were dealing with something temporary like school stress, puberty or a phase. She was bright, thoughtful, and deeply sensitive. Early Signs We Didn’t Understand She was born with separation anxiety and had scarlet fever at age eleven, something that may have triggered underlying vulnerabilities, though nothing became obvious at the time. Faith, Fear, and Missed Language The real shift came years later, when I took a job 400 miles away and she was left to manage her daily life on her own at sixteen. I couldn’t hear what wasn’t being said. She couldn’t make sense of the conflicting thoughts she was having; th...

Violence against women: How Anger Destroys Families and What Gurbani Teaches Us

Note to the readers: I wrote this in 2009 and kept it tucked away. Coming back to it reminded me why I wrote it in the first place, and I’m glad to finally share it. November 25th is the international Day for the elimination of violence against women. This day was recognized by the General Assembly of United Nations in 1999 with a view too raising public awareness of violations of the rights of the women, why was this step deemed necessary? In many cultures women are viewed and treated as inferior or as second class citizens. Prejudices against them are deep rooted. Gender based violence is an on going problem even in the so-called developed world. According to former UN Secretary General Kofi Annan “Violence against women is global in reach, and takes place in all societies and cultures,” he said in a statement marking the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. “It affects women no matter what their race, ethnicity, social origin, birth or other status may...